Title: WHAT EVERi BR0THA SH0ULD KN0W
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Blog Entry: So I am not really an expert on relationships or anything by far, but I do sit back and watch what happens in relationships of people around me... So I thought that I'll give back to my MALE community by giving some pointers on GIRL success. One thing that I've noticed is that must of these men out there really really need to step up! Now, this is not gonna be some "men bashing" blog, but kinda some insite to both men and women. Men: there are some things I just wanna tell you to really help you out when you are interested in a female. 1. Play It Cool!: Now that you've gotten that number, please please dont call them 15 times, or every 15 mins, or from 15 different phones! It is so much more attractive if you just play it cool... if she is interested, she will call you back. If she doesnt call you back, then either she's busy or she's not interested. My point is that she will eventually contact you herself... Oh oh! and please do not bring up the fact that you've been trying to call her and havent been able to reach her... and start asking "why haven't you answered your phone?" Seriously, you sound crazy and pressed, just get over it... When she does call you back, just act as if it's not that big of a deal and have a normal conversation. 2. Personal Introductions Are Always Much Better!: Women like it when you put your fears behind you and walk up to her with confidence. Not confidence like... "Ay girl! Leme holla at u for a second!" or "Man you need to be on my team for real!" or "I dont care if you are in a relationship!, that n*gga aint me!". --Women-- that is the WRONG kinda confidence! Some of oyu girls like that cause you think that he's aggresive... but when he's chokin your ass out at home ur gonna wish you had picked up on that beforehand! --Men-- make sure that you approach women of "stature" and "class" with stature and class. I know a lot of times your probably in the club or at some loud event and you dont really think about it. The only thing your probably thinkin is " man, she is so fly" or actually, you're probably thinking extremely graphic thoughts (lol) But, just think that you are actually aproaching somebody's daughter... so do it with respect. 3. Be Creative!: Maybe it's just me, but I'm really creative and dont just do the normal stuff. Personally, If I am interested in someone, and we have been talking, I do stuff out of the norm to show my interest. I am not talking about sexual stuff, but stuff like paying for dinner (Men, honestly... you should be doing that more often). I totally believe in us men paying for stuff and being a gentleman... cause that shows independence in my personality. So Men, if you are taking someone out on a date, go somewhere different! Maybe to a bellydancing dinner, or a Heat game, or mini golf, or if you're really a baller... send a driver to pick her up and have her driven to a private place! I know that this sounds a little far-fetch for "average" guys but creativity keeps the friendship/relationship interesting. 4. Open Doors!: So yeah, Its freakin 2008, and yeah, nobody does it anymore but that's even more of a reason as to why we should do it!! My mom and pop have been together for a very long time and HE STILL OPENS THE CAR DOOR!! Its called being a gentleman... Let's break that down... Gentle: non-aggressive, kindly; amiable: a gentle manner; Man: an adult male person, as distinguished from a boy or a woman; The Provider; The Rock; a Husband, Male lover or sweetheart. There is something special about a man who does this automatically... and doesnt even think it to be odd. Usually if a woman is used to this type of behavior, its what she expects. If she isnt't......then be a "gentleman" and introduce her. 5. Friends First!: Ok, this is probably the BIGGEST mistake that people make in relationships! It is so important that you have a friendship first more than anything. Not have a friendship and sleepin together, and not friends but you kiss every now and then........ JUST FRIENDS! If you want to have a meaningful relationship, this has to be first. So... you're probably thinking "how do i do that?"...Well you can start by not always making sexual comments all the time. That is so lame anyway! When you go out on dates, go to places that are well lit, alot of people, and with no pressure. Am I saying don't go to movies? No, I'm just stating that you want to do activities to see what type of person it is that your dealing with. Ok, I am getting tired of typing, but I hope I was able to give some Man 101 pointers. I guarentee they are for sure winners! DaProfessor
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